"Only take advice from someone you'd trade places with." -Darren Hardy
I recently got a DM over on Instagram from someone who’s not even following me to suggest that I change up my profile to make it better. You know, one of those "I'm just trying to be helpful" comments.
And you know what's CRIZ-AZY? I totally noticed that my brain's first reaction was to want to and follow this person’s advice out of FOMO or the misguided story of "everyone else knows better than me and if I want to be nice I should take their advice" I used to tell myself. I had to actively fight giving my power away! But because I know to look for these things, I took a step back and considered it for a second.
While I know it’s far from perfect and of course there's always room for tweaking, improving and growing, I'm proud of the genuine and authentic way I show up. Would I want to trade places with this person on Instagram? Um, I have approximately 50 times the number of followers they do, so...a big fat no.
And then, because I was giving myself the space to consider instead of reacting, I remembered that someone I really DO admire (and who I WOULD trade places with on Instagram, she has a beautiful brand and about 40x the number of followers I do)...had affirmed what I was doing there and contradicted the random DM-er's unsolicited advice.
All of this happened in a matter of seconds, because I've done the work and gotten the support to understand my own personal version of sneaky self-sabotages so that I can look out for them ('cause we all got 'em!).
And I share this because no matter where you are in building your business, whether you look like you've got it all together, you're feeling overwhelmed with all the things you COULD do and procrastinating on really doing any of them, or somewhere in between, this stuff pops up, and learning to think like an entrepreneur is how you move through it.
I think it’s so important to notice that we have that tendency toward negativity bias (it's an old survival mechanism in our brains that we've largely outgrown the need for in our modern world), to be able to take a step back and make a decision even if it goes against our default wiring.
When you get advice, CONSIDER THE SOURCE before you consider taking it on. Does that person have what you want in the area of life/business that they're offering "help" around?
Just like someone who isn't actively growing an Instagram account is unqualified to give advice on how to make mine better, if someone in your life is feeling stuck in a soul-sucking 9-5, or is always talking about how hard it is to get clients/make money, are they the best one to listen to about what's possible in your own business?
See what I'm sayin'?
Does this make sense? Do you have your own examples to share?