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Getting Free From FOMO: Day 5

Deciding frees you to move from a place of feeling like a victim to showing up as a volunteer. When we are feeling stuck or incapable of deciding, we're handing our power over to something external. Once we make a decision, we're reminded that we actually get to choose how we show up, today.

Here's an example:

I had a mini-physical for life insurance. The agent came to my house to perform a few tests and verify my application.

She was nice, but flustered, and complained non-stop about how beautiful the day was outside, since she’d be stuck inside doing payroll, her least favorite thing to do, how much she was dreading it, and how awful today was going to be, etc., etc. She was in her 50s, and I was saddened to realize how unhappy this woman was, and that she clearly saw herself as trapped by her job. She couldn’t even enjoy the fact that she was out of the office, sitting in front of a beautiful view, making a drive in the sunshine, and so on.

It honestly reminded me of how far I’ve come. A few years ago, that would’ve been me, joining in, always stressing or obsessing about the next negative thing coming up on my schedule and how I was going to survive it.

I wasn’t enjoying the present because I was too busy dreading what was next, and living in the future put me in a perpetual state of anxiety.

So that meant my hopes, dreams and thoughts were dependent on things outside of my control, outside of the here and now, relegated to “someday,” waiting in the wings for me to realize that they were up to me all along!

You are not a victim. Neither is the insurance lady. I know that’s a loaded word to use, but I use it with meaning and intention.

You ARE a volunteer, and you have the power to change your circumstances--but it IS a choice. You can make the choice before you know exactly how it’s all going to happen. It’s simply a choice to be open to what could be next, and better for you.

It feels much easier to play the victim, and to be blunt, most people do--but where is that getting you?

I asked the below question on a coaching call:

Where will you be a year from today if it’s still up to someone or something else to make YOUR dreams come true?

It totally rocked the woman on the other end of the phone out of complacency and fear to a place where she was finally ready to accomplish a goal she'd been procrastinating on for 9 YEARS!

You don’t have to know how it’s all going to look now, you just need to decide to make a choice to take the power back and take control of your life. That’s where it starts. And every day, women just like you are making the choice to be open to changing their own lives.

Are you ready?

What’s one place you’ve been waiting for someday or playing the victim that you’re willing to change, even if you don’t yet know what that looks like?

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Getting Free From FOMO: Day 4

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I know that DECIDING can feel heavy and pressured and sometimes scary, so today, let's bring some fun to it (thanks Phoebe).

Let's call it getting clarity, freeing yourself up to pursue your passions, bringing you one BIG step closer to your dreams.

Since we're looking at some very famous people here, I'd love to hear--who's one person you admire and would love to be like? Who's one person that getting clear could move you closer to emulating?

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Getting Free From FOMO: Day 3

This quote so accurately sums up where most of us live when we're struggling to make a decision. Usually, we're looking at it out of something we did or heard or saw in the past, or out of our spectre fears of what might happen in the future. These viewpoints keep us stuck.

Neither is real for where you are, right now, in the present, today, because YOU get to decide how that decision turns out, how you show up for it, and the results you get from it.

The present moment is where all of your power resides.

What do you want TODAY?

Trust your beautiful, sensitive, intuitive self that what you want is GOOD and that you have that dream or desire for a reason.

Trust yourself that the way to get it will appear as you take action, and do so today. Listen to your intuition and take the smallest step out in faith today.

Can you relate to trying to make a decision based on what you saw in the past or what you fear for the future? How could that be different if you listened to your intuition and chose from a place of power TODAY?

Share below!

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Getting Free From FOMO: Day 2

Today I'm sharing this 3-minute video I did for my community to challenge and inspire you!

Deciding actually frees up a TON of mind space to focus on growing your business. Being in indecision, feeling overwhelmed by FOMO, or constantly trying to "do it all" drains us and, by diluting our focus and energy, dilutes our results and progress.

So today, I invite you to decide. Draw that line in the sand. Make the commitment. Post here in the group for accountability. Hire a coach. Make it real and get yourself support so you can't hide out :)

What step will you take today to make your decision more real?

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Getting Free From FOMO: Day 1

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Welcome to Day 1 of getting free from FOMO so you can decide & ACTUALLY see results!

“In any moment of decision the best thing you can do is the right thing the next best thing you can do is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.” Theodore Roosevelt

So many of us suffer from FOMO, a “fear of missing out.”

Many times FOMO shows up in an inability or unwillingness to make a decision. We’re afraid to:
😨choose one business idea to focus on
😨pick a way to market it
😨choose a package or a price
😨invest in ourselves to get support
😨make the leap and quit our job

Because to decide literally means “to cut off,” so when you’re faced with deciding, often you focus on what you could potentially be missing out on rather than what it could potentially bring you.

BUT...if you don’t decide, then you are definitely missing out.

So today, I’d like you to consider that FOMO and NOT making a decision out of fear of choosing wrong is actually keeping you stuck.

Let’s follow the logic--if you don’t decide, you won’t actually get ANYTHING, right? You won’t actually move forward.

Deciding moves you forward.

How about you? What have you been afraid to decide? Or, where have you made a decision and seen great results from it? Share below!

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Celebration Series: Day 5

🎉Today, I'm leading by example, so I'm pouring, raising and sharing virtual champagne to YOU.

I'm celebrating that my clients THIS WEEK ALONE HAVE:
🎉launched new websites
🎉created and shared new high-value freebies
🎉launched their email lists,
🎉grown their new Facebook groups,
🎉broken through major fears, procrastination, and perfectionism
🎉launched new Facebook pages
🎉ended YEARS-LONG overwhelm about specific pieces of their business
🎉shown up for themselves AND the good they're putting into the world by helping the people THEY are passionate about serving!!!!

I'm celebrating new clients deciding that NOW is their time to make their dreams happen, and breaking through the holding pattern they'd been in, realizing that it wasn't about waiting for something external to prove that they could get the support they needed (ex. "once I have XYZ, then I'll get support"), but owning that they, and their dreams, were worth it NOW, that getting support was actually THE THING that would get them the life, business, money and impact they were dreaming of, not the other way around.

I'm celebrating this beautiful community and each and every one of you in it.

The entrepreneurial journey CAN be lonely because most of the time, people in our "real lives" don't understand...but it doesn't HAVE to be lonely. That's what Life With Passion is about. That's why I do what I do with each of my clients.

When you have someone to celebrate with you, cheer you on, and help you see the way, that's when everything starts to FINALLY happen.

So CHEERS, ladies. CHEERS.

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Celebration Series: Day 4

Welcome to Day 4 of How To Use CELEBRATING To Grow Your Business!

Today, we're talking about how sharing your celebrations is validation and social proof to your future clients!!!

When you share a win like:
🎉you just got a new client
🎉an amazing testimonial from someone you helped (free or paid)
🎉you just launched or updated your website or program
🎉you are celebrating your first $1k, $2k, or $5k month

You're not only inspiring others with what's possible as we discussed yesterday, but you're also providing a tangible example, both to your own brain and also to the people who are watching and thinking about working with you, that your business is WORKING! 🎉🎉🎉

People buy from those they know, like, and trust. Social proof is an important part of this equation, meaning, your potential customers are seeing that others are trusting you, whether by investing their time in a free call with you, or on one of your products, or on your 6-month program--it ALL matters, it all adds up, because it makes it easier for them to trust you, too!

What "a-has" come to mind that you could be sharing and celebrating to provide validation and social proof in your business right now?

Or, what feels like a challenge to you about this? What resistance do you feel or questions do you have?

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Celebration Series: Day 3

Because I know you're a person who loves to help others, today, I'd like you to think about how you inspire others by celebrating (and sharing your celebrations!).

This is something I work with my clients on, because as high achievers, they all struggle with celebrating their accomplishments.

Here's the thing I tell them--It's NOT bragging for the sake of getting attention, because that's not who you are.

Instead, it's inspiring others with what's possible. You know that if someone came to you and said, "Wow, I wish I could do that," you'd tell them that if you could do it, they can do it, right?

So by sharing your wins, you are being a source of inspiration to someone who's a few steps behind you, is feeling stuck, or is having a bad day.

Does that make sense?

Now, with that truth in mind, what win would you like to celebrate (and inspire others with!) today?

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Celebration Series: Day 2

Let's think about how celebrating something makes you FEEL. Happy, joyful, light, excited, grateful...right? Which in turn produces more joyful feelings, which leads to happy rather than forced action.

I think there's often a fear that if we celebrate something, we'll lose motivation to keep pushing or driving ourselves. Like we won't care anymore. BUT, as we learn to celebrate and to trust ourselves, we learn that that's just not true. We'll actually be more motivated to keep going in a way that feels GOOD instead of pressured, because we'll know that we reward ourselves along the way, rather than it never being enough.

So today, choose one thing you can do for yourself that would feel like a celebration to you!

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Celebration Series: Day 1

Welcome to Day 1 of Learning To CELEBRATE In Order To Grow Your Business!

I hear from so many in my community who say it's hard to give yourself permission to celebrate your small (or big!) wins along the way.

Why is it important, anyway?

Simple: It's important because WHAT YOU FOCUS ON EXPANDS.

So, for example, if you focus on the progress you're making in your business, marking your accomplishments with celebrations, it gets easier to make more progress.

If you focus on what you haven't yet achieved, believing it's not enough because it's not X, Y, or Z, you start to see more and more examples of what you haven't yet accomplished and it creates a cycle of discouragement and getting stuck and downward spiraling :).

Your brain takes what you give your attention to, makes a note that "Oh, this is important to her, let's notice more of that," and goes out to do just that. It's not all out there and "woo woo;" it's brain science.

So, what do you want your brain to find? If it's more good things, which will inspire you to take more good, business-building action, then celebrate your progress EVERY DAY!!!

For me, celebrating can look as small as throwing a shot of raw honey in my daily organic jasmine green tea, which I usually drink straight, or as fancy as planning a big trip--with lots of other examples in between. It's all about NOTING that this is a celebration and feeling good about showing up for yourself in that way.

How about you?

What's one thing you can celebrate today? How will you celebrate? OR what questions do you have about celebrating?

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Procrastination to Profit: Day 5

Today, I'm going to simplify yesterday's "one thing" hack even further (because you know simplicity + focus are how I roll)!

Today's insight: Do 5 Minutes!

This could be perhaps the most revolutionary piece of advice I’ve given or taken in myself.

Set a timer and just do your one thing for just 5 minutes. Just 5 minutes. Seriously. If you want to, you can do it for longer, but you don’t have to. Watch what happens and how you feel once you do it.

One woman in my community used this hack to start using a whole new system she’d been wanting to use in her business because she knew it would save her tons of time, but had been procrastinating on for months because...she could never find the time to implement it. :) In just 5 minutes a day, she knocked that sucker out.

So, post below! What do you think of this idea? Are you up for trying it? What will you spent 5 minutes today on? Once you try it, come back and let us know how you feel!

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Procrastination to Profit: Day 4

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Today, I'm going to simplify yesterday's "one thing" hack even further (because you know simplicity + focus are how I roll)!

Today's insight: Do 5 Minutes!

This could be perhaps the most revolutionary piece of advice I’ve given or taken in myself.

Set a timer and just do your one thing for just 5 minutes. Just 5 minutes. Seriously. If you want to, you can do it for longer, but you don’t have to. Watch what happens and how you feel once you do it.

One woman in my community used this hack to start using a whole new system she’d been wanting to use in her business because she knew it would save her tons of time, but had been procrastinating on for months because...she could never find the time to implement it. :) In just 5 minutes a day, she knocked that sucker out.

What do you think of this idea? Are you up for trying it? What will you spent 5 minutes today on?

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Procrastination to Profit: Day 3

 Pick Just 1 Thing

When we staring at a long to-do list, much of which has been carried over from the day, week, month or even year before, we’re overwhelmed before we even actually accomplish anything, right?

Brian Tracy, a productivity expert, shares that your eventual success depends on your ability to learn to choose your most important task in any given day.

He calls it “eating your frog,” based on the Mark Twain quote:

“If it's your job to eat a frog, it's best to do it first thing in the morning. And If it's your job to eat two frogs, it's best to eat the biggest one first. Eat a live frog first thing in the morning and nothing worse will happen to you the rest of the day.”

Hahaha, right?!?

The beauty of choosing just ONE THING is that this works for the person who loves being organized and the one who doesn’t.

Now, it’s important that your one thing be simple and accomplish-able, especially if you’re just starting from a place of being stuck or feeling overwhelmed. Don’t go picking “create a whole website!” as your one thing. Choose something simple and straightforward and that shows visible progress, like “pick a template for my website” or “purchase my domain name.” If you need to create your package or pricing, don’t say “I’m going to do it all, and it’s going to take 5 minutes and be PERFECT!” Setting yourself up for disaster. Instead, try something like, “I’m going to decide the length of my program” or “I’m going to decide what price would feel really good to get paid right now.”

THAT’S IT.

Then, acknowledge to yourself that you’re indeed moving forward because you did ONE IMPORTANT THING today, and congratulate yourself! Start building positive reinforcement, faith and trust in yourself that you ARE making progress and that today, you’ve done what you needed to do!

How about you?

What’s your “one thing” you could do today? OR are you having trouble breaking down a large thing into smaller pieces?

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Procrastination to Profit: Day 2

A therapist once wisely told me, “Christine, your inbox will still be full when you die.” I’ve never forgotten that.

There will always be more things to check off the to-do list. Always be people asking for things from you, always be chores to complete...always be a ton of options and information flying at you about what you "should" do...but if you pay attention to all of them, you'll be perpetually overwhelmed.

On the other hand, when you own that you'll never get everything done that you could get done, you create space for yourself to ask a better question--what is the BEST thing I could get done to move me toward my goal today?

This is about doing the RIGHT things, not all the things. Your life is NOT in service to your to-do list. It’s the other way around. That's how you build a life & business with passion.

When you're completing tasks in service of the life you want to build, you give each one meaning and weight, and can choose more wisely.

As humans, we THRIVE on meaning. When we can connect to that meaning, we change our outlook on life. We focus on the positive. The possibilities become apparent. Our lives change.

Focusing on what completing these things is going to allow us to do gives us the motivation and the energy to attack the most important to-dos.

That’s WHY you get up and work harder and focus on your future and put in the extra hours and deal with hassles.

Your WHY transforms your today AND your future.

Your to-dos become stepping stones rather than barriers.

Remember,

“No luck--or anything else worthwhile--will come your way unless you take some form of action.” -T. Harv Eker

Focus on opportunities and dreaming big instead of obstacles. Take responsibility to make your WHY happen--it IS possible, when you take aligned action toward it, big or small, every day.

Approach your life out of your why, and you will find internal motivation and energy stores you never knew you had.

So, what are the things you've been procrastinating on going to allow you to do, be, or have, once you complete them? Or, what has overcoming procrastination and completing something big allowed you to do, be or have already?

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Procrastination to Profit: Day 1

Today is DAY 1 of my series: "Procrastination To Profit!"

First, we're answering, WHY do we procrastinate, anyway?

This is such a great question and lots of people have answers such as “working faster/better under pressure” (used it!), "being too busy" (yep), or "not knowing where to start" (uh-huh).

But none of these are actually it. So what is procrastination REALLY about? Where does it come from?

Simple: Procrastination is about unresolved emotions (Nick Ortner).

Most commonly, these are anxiety, fear of failure, feeling overwhelmed, and these are often tied in with perfectionism.

Often people who procrastinate are extremely capable and intelligent but are being derailed and held back by this habit!

Let's look at some examples.

I don’t want to reach out, pitch myself, offer my services, etc. because I want it to be perfect and I'm scared that it won't be (fear).

I’m afraid of the response (or non-response) when I send this email, or this is too big of a project, so I’m just going to keep putting it off because I never have time to do it RIGHT or all at once (overwhelm, anxiety, fear).

Or my avowed favorite...

If I put it off until the last minute, then if it isn’t perfect, I can say it was because I didn’t give it my best effort or didn’t have time!

Then I’d go read some article about 32 ways to get more done, be more productive, etc., etc., etc. And while they alll seemed like great ideas, and I thought, "YEAH, totally!!!," and I'd save or pin the article, declaring that THIS was the time I'd finally implement, the truth was, those strategies didn’t work for me because it was emotions causing the actions, not me just needing more structure. Addressing the emotions is what allowed me to move through it and become amazingly productive.

Most of us are not conscious of all of this going on, and we often think there's something bad or wrong with us. The truth is, our subconscious minds, which control our emotions, are fully 90% of our brains--our rational, analytical minds are ONLY 10%. So, if we have some strong negative emotion battling our conscious mind, what’s going to win?

So now that I've explained this, can you let some of the "I’m a bad person" judgment stuff go?

Share below:
Does this make sense for you? Can you relate, and if so, what emotion(s) do you feel that cause you to procrastinate? What project or task is this showing up in right now?

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Holding You Back From Visibility: Day 5

Lack of knowing what to say!

A lot of times we feel like we have nothing to say that hasn’t already been said, or we’re not inspired, so we just read everyone else’s clever posts and half-heartedly hit “like” on a few and don’t put ourselves or our offerings out there. Another day gone by. Womp WOOOMMMMMP.

Here’s a hack I resisted for YEARS that has changed the way I operate on a daily basis--I write my content ahead of time, in chunks. Yes everyone talks about this. Yes this is nothing new. Yes it took me years to actually DO it regularly. For a long time, I would get up, think about what I wanted to say today, and then write it up in the group. An hour later, I’d be relieved that I delivered something of value to you, but I’d already be feeling behind because the day was gone. I’d also wake up each morning with the pressure of, “What am I going to say today!?!”

My mom is great about working ahead. I did not inherit that gene; declaring for years that I “worked better under pressure” and banging out AP English papers the night before like a boss. That worked for me as a dorky teenager with adrenaline on my side, but now I’m all about creating systems, structures, and processes that allow me to be present in my life, for my baby, for my clients, and in a way that GIVES me energy rather than drains it.

Like this post, for instance (and all the posts for this week). It’s Saturday afternoon as I’m writing this, ALONE (except the dogs) in my house, knowing I’ll be posting it on a future Saturday morning. I’m cranking it out, feeling inspired and excited, and I also know I’ll head into the week feeling clear, because a DAILY task that used to put pressure on me is now d-d-d-d-DONE-ZO.

Creating space for your inspiration and planning and working ahead might take some structure and accountability, thought and work to find what works best for you, but it is THE solution to the “I don’t know what to sayyyyyy” syndrome.

How about you? Does this help? Have you ever tried it before? What questions do you have about overcoming the fear of “I don’t know what to say!”?

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Holding You Back From Visibility: Day 4

Feeling discouraged because you tried and feel like it didn’t work.

I want to remind you of something, my friends. Consistency is the key to building a business. It’s not a one time post thing, like we talked about last week, and if someone says it is, they’re LYING TO YOU. LY-ING.

Sure, maybe someone had a post blow up because they used one of those annoying comment ladders (don’t like, don’t use). But I guarantee that it wasn’t the first thing they did in business. They first had to do the work of figuring out what their person wanted to hear, where their person was hanging out, and what to offer that person who would find it valuable.

So there’s ALWAYS more behind-the-scenes work that happens than you see. It’s like the iceberg analogy--most of it is unseen.

Example: I’ve had 2 articles featured by The Huffington Post, one on the Business homepage and one on the Lifestyle homepage. Big deal, right? BUT. I first pitched Huffington Post back in NOVEMBER OF 2015. I was so disappointed that I didn’t get approved (no response, no nothing) that it took me 9 months to pitch again. This time, aha, I was IN, with a personal note back from Arianna herself! Obviously we are besties now. (Not really but STILL I treasure that email!). So, I published my first article in August 2016 and then it took me 6 months of posting to get an article featured (in February). The next one got featured in April, so much sooner because I learned some stuff and got more consistent.

But it never would have happened if the first time I put an article out there, I thought, “This is doomed to fail because it didn’t get featured; I obviously suck and so does my business,” and I walked away. Naw-what-I’m-sayin’?

This is where support can be key. Someone (or someones!) to encourage you and pick you back up when you’re feeling down. This is one of the things you all do SO well in this community--encourage each other. I’m an encourager by nature (I used to send secret encouragement notes to people when I was a kid) so this is so important! So is having the strategy piece, and my clients get both, but having that support in the entrepreneurial journey is KEY, because we’re building businesses we’re passionate about so that we can enjoy our lives, right?

How about you? Have you been discouraged because you’re feeling like you put yourself out there and it didn’t work? What’s one way you could ask for support to turn that around? Or, how do you keep yourself motivated along the journey?

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Holding You Back From Visibility: Day 3

💥Lack of confidence in yourself or what you have to offer!💥

Eeee, this is a big one, right? A lot of times we just don’t know if what we have to offer is any good, if people will want it, or if WE are good enough/qualified enough/able enough for people to take us seriously, to help our clients get the results we’re talking about, etc.

This is a HUGE topic but it’s so so so important that you know that if you’re feeling this way, you CAN train your brain to believe and think differently.

People say to me all the time, “I could never do what you do! Just get on video and talk, LIVE?!?! Hold a webinar?!?! Go on a podcast or on TV? No way!!!”

I used to say the same thing, and now I LOVE IT!!! I LUURRRRRRRRVE IT! And you can tell I do, right?

But 2 years ago, that was not the case. I thought if I was going to get on livestream or a webinar, I had to be very calm and straightforward because that is what I thought would make people think I was professional. Then one day I came across a 7-figure coach who was acting goofy and crazy on her livestreams, and I adored it. And I thought--THAT’s the real me. That’s who I’ve always been (but only let the people who knew me really well see). My best friends knew that I was a lot of fun, but for a while, they were the only ones I let see that side of me.

So what changed?

I re-owned my voice. I rediscovered who I really was. And I started by just experimenting with showing that side of me to more than just the inner “Circle of Trust.”

The result? Women started saying things like, “I love your energy!,” and then becoming high-paying, ideal clients left and right BECAUSE of the way I was showing up as my real, authentic, genuine, WEIRD, self! Plus, on my end, it energized me rather than draining me, and built my confidence even more. It was (and is) sweet as, miss! And taught me a super-valuable lesson about allowing myself to learn and grow along the way.

If you were to go back and watch some of my early Periscopes, you’d see a huge difference in the way I showed up then versus how I show up now. But THAT’S OK! I still got clients at the beginning of my business because I was consistent. You’re allowed to learn along the way, and you will evolve.

But it STARTS with looking at why you’re holding yourself back and doing WHATEVER YOU NEED TO DO to build that confidence in yourself, because it is a learnable skill. How do you build it? By taking action. By doing something new. You can use my Know Your Niche Challenge & the Confidence Resume that’s part of it if you want.

Does this ring true for you? Does a lack of confidence show up for you? Do you feel a lack of confidence in yourself, in what you have to offer, or both? Or have you overcome this and now feel like you’re on the other side of it? What helped you?

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Holding You Back From Visibility: Day 2

Here's a big one: Feeling overwhelmed about the specifics of how to do it

I hear this a lot, and it IS possible to become visibly consistent in just a few minutes a day!

Let’s say you want to use Facebook groups, because you know they’re a great place to build real relationships.

I highly recommend that you build out your content ahead of time, in a batch (you can start with one week at a time), so that all you have to do is go in and post it, then respond to other peoples’ posts!

You could do this just once a day if you wanted, for 30 minutes max. You could delete the Facebook app from your phone and only engage when you sit down at your computer with intention.

Wow.

How much extra time and, more importantly, space would that create in your brain for you to come up with creative ideas in your business, get things done that you feel like are holding you back, and build individual relationships that lead to clients?

A TON of real value replacing mindless scrolling and feeling overwhelmed, right?

It doesn’t have to be Facebook groups, either; that’s just one example!

Now I'd like to hear from you!
Do you know which way you'd like to choose and master now? What specifics would you like to know about it?

Ask below!

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Holding You Back From Visibility: Day 1

This week, we’re talking about what holds us back from getting and staying visible in our businesses.

Here are some of the reasons that I find that high-achieving women often don’t show up consistently, even if they're motivated to:

😨Feeling overwhelmed about the specifics of how to do it
😨Fear of judgment or criticism
😨Lack of confidence in yourself or what you have to offer
😨Lack of knowing what to say
😨Fear of doing something wrong
😨Being discouraged because you tried and feel like it didn’t work
😨Comparing yourself and feeling like you’re behind

We're going to go into these in more detail this week, so help me decide which to focus on!

Which of these holds you back from being visible with your business online?

Or what ways have you found to combat and overcome what’s held you back in the past?

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